I
recently asked a friend what she thought
were the ingredients of an engaging
or successful parent support group
(PSG). “Well, that’s a no-brainer,” she
replied. “All you need is to have a slate
of achievements and glitter of talent
together in one place.”
Hers is an answer that, initially at least,
seems almost impossible to disagree
with. How often, after all, have you heard
anyone complain about having too many
achievements? Yet, a stellar lineup will
not necessarily make for a memorable
PSG experience. A seemingly unrelated
succession of achievements, no matter
how good, is a bit like listening to Top
40 radio; it gives you nothing else to do,
in the end, but sit there and admire how
marvelous it all is.
I believe that a great PSG, on the other
hand, asks us to make connections, just
as great art does. It encourages us to
discover the joy, not so much in what
we do, but in why we are here. So what
are two simple truths that connect us all
in Family@Barker?
The first simple truth is that, as parent
volunteers, we all dare greatly. Whether
it is at prayer meetings, in the classrooms,
or preparing and serving food to staff
and students, we give of ourselves –
our vulnerabilities, our wisdom, our
compassion – and just showing up for the
things and people we care about, even
when we think we have nothing to give.
As parents, we might have struggled with
feelings of self-doubt and hopelessness,
but we have also found a way of
acknowledging that our struggles are not
so different from those of other parents.
We find courage in our community of
over 200 parent volunteers, and we
come together through 12 ministries
and over 3000 collective hours of
seeking to improve the lives of others
in this community. For many of our
parents, volunteering is not by accident
but by choice, and they demonstrate this
abundantly through their commitment to
Nurture the Mind, Nourish the Body and
Sustain the Soul of our sons, staff and
fellow-parents of ACS (Barker Road).
Secondly, we live in a world obsessed
with the questions about what life will
give us and are often out of touch with the
question of what life expects from us. For
example, we may ask what rewards we
can expect for joining a PSG, or what
our schools and governments should be
doing to make our lives better.
What I have found striking about Family@
Barker however is how we constantly ask
ourselves what our sons, staff, fellow-parents
and God expect from us. We also find our
work to be deeply fulfilling because we know
that our acts have a lasting legacy, and that
we take up the mantle from the generations of
volunteers who came before us. Our prayers
therefore are for a calling rather than an
inheritance, and these are the lenses through
which we experience the PSG.
These two simple truths are neither new
nor revolutionary by any measure, yet they
are vitally important in the path we must
collectively discover for ourselves. Our
answers to which path to take may vary
from person to person, or they may change
as the work evolves around us, but we take
heart that these simple truths will hold us
steadfastly to our mission.
For it is by daring greatly and asking
what life and God expect from us that
we tear at the seams of our presumptions.
Sometimes we feel overwhelmed by the
enormity of our challenges as parents
or as a PSG, but whilst no one can do
everything, everyone can do something.
So we choose to see our parents as
warm guiding beacons, our teachers
as caring mentors, and our children as
great kids. For it is when we dare to see
the world through rose-coloured glasses
that roses begin to appear.
Sophia Kan
Chairperson, Family@Barker
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